[It's confusing to Charles, and surprising, to hear that other people apparently haven't tried to delve deeper with this man. He understands it on one level: he knows people can have a habit of accepting what others show them. Continuously showing strength and a desire to be the one helping, rather than being helped, can make some assume a person doesn't need help, or that they may not respond well if they try to. It's the apparent truth of some people not wanting or trying to go deeper with this man, when he feels worthy of it, that doesn't make sense to him.

It's the heart of his feelings for Kyle asking the question, but who wouldn't want to try building something more with this man?]

I don't feel you should do it for me, if that's part of your motivation. [He's not sure there, and he doesn't know if Kyle may be, either.] I understand that may sound counter-intuitive, when it's what I've been pushing you for tonight. I do want it, because I want to know you, but I don't require it to still want to know you, or to be happy in our relationship.

Does what I'm trying to say make sense? [He hopes he's being clear, but this is a complicated issue, and it's difficult for him to tell. He doesn't want to push this man to expose himself to him because it's wanted. There's a level of safety and defensiveness there that he feels sustains a habit of being for other people, rather than Kyle's own self.] You can tell me no, and in that case, I'll try again.