Yes, learning is sort of the point of therapy--I'm not trying to say that I am helpless and can't learn new skills, just commenting it's currently not in my skillset and I might falter along the way of learning how to do things I've never managed before. I've learned a lot in the last couple of years, but navigating these waters wasn't something we covered. Hopefully this Mr. Foster is a good teacher. I'm more than willing to do whatever work needs doing. I just need a guide to show me the way.
Thank you for that. I told Liz ands Maria that I was going, because I'm resaponsible for Liz, and she needed to know I'll be gone, and Mariaknew I needed help, so I wanted her to know I was getting it. I'm not really used to being this exposed and vulnerable. I always *feel* like I am, but that's part of my disorder, too.
I'm not trying to sound insulting or defeatist. I'm seeing a therapist myself to get past some things that have happened. Here and back home. I just want things to be better for you, Bass. I worry about you and don't want to see you getting hurt. Alex told me about the incident with the gang.
So I'm really hoping this helps and you can find yourself in a better place.
Maybe it's good they know though. So you know there's people here for you.
Sorry - I didn't think you were. I'm just kinda used to people questioning my commitment to being a better person. Or if I'm worth trying to help. Thank you. The gang didn't have anything to do with this. They blindsided me, but I fought them off. I survived. Two of them didn't.
Thanks, me too.
Maybe. That's just a really new concept for me and goes againat everything I've had drilled in my head for 17 years.
I'm trying. But when the people you loved and trusted most have all tried to kill you...trusting new people to actually be there for you takes a lot of work.
I'm sure it does. But there's one thing I'm going to say and you can not like me for it but I feel it needs to be said. As a friend. As his friend.
No matter how many people have hurt you, expecting him to hurt you no matter what he's said and done is calling him a liar. It's saying no matter how hard he works, he will always be circumspect in your mind because of the actions of others. He's losing before he can even try. And that's not fair to either of you.
Why would I dislike you for looking out for him and being a good friend? I know you're right and that was one of the first things the Doc and I worked on. I still struggle sometimes, what with the disorder-born paranoia, but I know he's not them, and I trust him more than I ever thought I would trust again. But letting *other* people see me vulnerable and not expecting them to take advantage, trusting people who say they want to be there for me? That's a different story to make myself believe. I know Alex cares and wants what's best for me. I don't feel certain about that...larger support network. But I would rather you all be there for him, anyway.
Because you do have mental health issues and you are looking for help for them. But in the end, no one deserves to live constantly worrying they're being judged for things they never did. To be punished for the actions of another.
I'm glad you have that trust in him.
That larger support network is only there because we care about him. We all make mistakes. I know that better than anyone. Just know that we're not here to judge you, Bass. We're just here to care about him.
I'm never going to complain about you all supporting and caring about him--or about me for his sake. I'm glad he has you. I appreciate the lack of judgment and that you believe I'm genuinely trying to work on my issues and be better.
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Thank you for that. I told Liz ands Maria that I was going, because I'm resaponsible for Liz, and she needed to know I'll be gone, and Mariaknew I needed help, so I wanted her to know I was getting it. I'm not really used to being this exposed and vulnerable. I always *feel* like I am, but that's part of my disorder, too.
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So I'm really hoping this helps and you can find yourself in a better place.
Maybe it's good they know though. So you know there's people here for you.
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Thanks, me too.
Maybe. That's just a really new concept for me and goes againat everything I've had drilled in my head for 17 years.
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Life changes though. Look around here we are. You have to embrace those changes. If not for your sake, for his.
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I'm trying. But when the people you loved and trusted most have all tried to kill you...trusting new people to actually be there for you takes a lot of work.
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I'm sure it does. But there's one thing I'm going to say and you can not like me for it but I feel it needs to be said. As a friend. As his friend.
No matter how many people have hurt you, expecting him to hurt you no matter what he's said and done is calling him a liar. It's saying no matter how hard he works, he will always be circumspect in your mind because of the actions of others. He's losing before he can even try. And that's not fair to either of you.
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I'm glad you have that trust in him.
That larger support network is only there because we care about him. We all make mistakes. I know that better than anyone. Just know that we're not here to judge you, Bass. We're just here to care about him.
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