That's actually promising. I'm glad to hear it. This place is awful on so many levels but I've learned the best we can do is what we can for ourselves.
[ And it's what he's been trying to do ever since he arrived. ]
I'm hoping it will as well. Talk to me about yourself? Your previous experience?
[ He smiles though at that. ]
But don't worry about anything holding you back. If you're willing to help and on the side of healing and helping we try and be just as helpful.
The truth? I think something like that should be a requirement for all doctors. Even if it's just doing volunteer work regularly to those communities that need it most.
[ Which it's easy for him to say given his circumstances. ]
New Mexico affords you a lot of chances to give back and help without the hospital experience. Chances that you can't tell your mother the by the book sheriff about, for one.
[ It's a not so funny joke, and true, but trying to help put her at ease. ]
We may call ourselves a hospital here but the experience is not the same here either, and likely nothing like the one you've known either.
Different. I am a surgeon but the one chance I had to use it, which I didn't, was something cosmetic that someone's boyfriend wanted for them.
We deal with a lot of patients that have dealt with the fall out of realignment and the drugs they dose us with. I've seen a lot of internal bruising and whip wounds, as well as dislocated joints.
[ He shakes his head at that. ]
Just because this place makes you desire bondage doesn't mean the person doing it knows what they're doing. Or when the tinsel at Christmas came to life basically and bound people suddenly and without warning and left them in the cold until someone freed them.
( that did make sense, sexual health in terms of safety in sex rather than just health )
I can't say I've had a lot of experience with injuries caused for those reasons but bruising, lacerations and dislocations can come from anywhere. So... any doctor should be able to help with some of that.
( she didn't have ortho experience for dislocations other than simple dislocations. but you always wanted knowledge on tbem )
Very true. A safe space at all sometimes, though that is stepping into ground where I've risked getting a citation but it won't stop me either.
[ He nods at that, not thinking about the fond smile he gives at that. ]
There's a few professional psychiatrists here. Harley. Andy. Venrille. They're the three I know personally and professionally. All good people. Venrille is a sex therapist by profession so that is useful here.
Anything in our patient's corner can only benefit them.
( because anyone that did dabble in kink knew that if you engaged with it you needed something on the other side, support if it had gotten too much or just the ability to stop. or good care for any bruises or wounds sustained. a willing partner should know that but not everyone here was a willing partner )
Would it be worth offering more support? Even a 'PSA: aftercare for your activities'? They might not all start willingly but they can take the basic care of their partner after.
( assuming, of course, they were enough in their mind for it )
I always think such things are a good choice. I know someone who was here before offered some information regularly on risk aware consensual kink but he's been gone a while.
Better than my last PSA as well which was: Do not use these holiday decorations for sex toys.
[ The way this place has made him look at things has definitely been interesting. ]
( she chuckles slightly at that and wishes she could see it. maybe there was video archive )
I could think of something useful for that. Though I'd rather rope a partner into it.
( not strictly for demonstration of using certain items but also... she'll figure it out. it could be an informative partner or something else. it's too new an idea )
Not assuming you mean a director or surgeon or anything but I'm curious just what you have in mind. Or do you mean someone in the BDSM safety ideals? Because I am the same. Experienced. Though I do know some here who are experts.
I could help, though I am not experienced much in the whole lifestyle and all outside of what I've learned here. I won't say all of it was the safest either, but if I can help, I'm there.
Aftercare though is my specialty. It's where I like to put focus into things more than anything else. With bondage or anything else.
[ A brief time he had lost that desire and given into another but it's only made him more determined to show those he's with how much he can be there for them. ]
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[ And it's what he's been trying to do ever since he arrived. ]
I'm hoping it will as well. Talk to me about yourself? Your previous experience?
[ He smiles though at that. ]
But don't worry about anything holding you back. If you're willing to help and on the side of healing and helping we try and be just as helpful.
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For the last few years I've been with Médecins Sans Frontières, working in one of their clinics in Egypt.
( her recent history and experiences are much easier for her to explain )
It was... a very different experience to a hospital, we were better supplied but there's more need than what hands can give.
( and one of the reasons that she'd been thinking about going back )
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[ Which it's easy for him to say given his circumstances. ]
New Mexico affords you a lot of chances to give back and help without the hospital experience. Chances that you can't tell your mother the by the book sheriff about, for one.
[ It's a not so funny joke, and true, but trying to help put her at ease. ]
We may call ourselves a hospital here but the experience is not the same here either, and likely nothing like the one you've known either.
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I'd like to hope that's because there's less of a medical need but... it's a different need?
( sex related injuries and the like? or the supernatural and magical creatures she hears are very open about being here )
Tell me about it.
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Different. I am a surgeon but the one chance I had to use it, which I didn't, was something cosmetic that someone's boyfriend wanted for them.
We deal with a lot of patients that have dealt with the fall out of realignment and the drugs they dose us with. I've seen a lot of internal bruising and whip wounds, as well as dislocated joints.
[ He shakes his head at that. ]
Just because this place makes you desire bondage doesn't mean the person doing it knows what they're doing. Or when the tinsel at Christmas came to life basically and bound people suddenly and without warning and left them in the cold until someone freed them.
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( that did make sense, sexual health in terms of safety in sex rather than just health )
I can't say I've had a lot of experience with injuries caused for those reasons but bruising, lacerations and dislocations can come from anywhere. So... any doctor should be able to help with some of that.
( she didn't have ortho experience for dislocations other than simple dislocations. but you always wanted knowledge on tbem )
I imagine the how is the... more complicated.
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Trust me, I didn't either though sadly it's usually not as sexual as you'd think. Like you said, dislocations and lacerations.
[ He sighs and nods. ]
Which sometimes makes it hard. They don't want to talk about it, or they want to talk about all of it.
Luckily I've only once been asked to carve a name and date on someone's rib, so I think I can handle what they give me. I think you can too.
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( offering whilst treating them, letting them know of options without overly pushing )
Are there additional services here? Advice, information--
( not strictly therapy but someone more skilled in what they can talk about )
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[ He nods at that, not thinking about the fond smile he gives at that. ]
There's a few professional psychiatrists here. Harley. Andy. Venrille. They're the three I know personally and professionally. All good people. Venrille is a sex therapist by profession so that is useful here.
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( because anyone that did dabble in kink knew that if you engaged with it you needed something on the other side, support if it had gotten too much or just the ability to stop. or good care for any bruises or wounds sustained. a willing partner should know that but not everyone here was a willing partner )
Would it be worth offering more support? Even a 'PSA: aftercare for your activities'? They might not all start willingly but they can take the basic care of their partner after.
( assuming, of course, they were enough in their mind for it )
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Better than my last PSA as well which was: Do not use these holiday decorations for sex toys.
[ The way this place has made him look at things has definitely been interesting. ]
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I could think of something useful for that. Though I'd rather rope a partner into it.
( not strictly for demonstration of using certain items but also... she'll figure it out. it could be an informative partner or something else. it's too new an idea )
I'm not an expert just... experienced.
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[ He can't help but smile at that. ]
Not assuming you mean a director or surgeon or anything but I'm curious just what you have in mind. Or do you mean someone in the BDSM safety ideals? Because I am the same. Experienced. Though I do know some here who are experts.
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( certainly not an entire act, clothes can be on for all of it )
Like a wrist in a restraint for guidance, potentially safely tying it if you don't have a standard restraint.
( says she who's going to use scarves as blindfolds soon but that's very different to her wrists )
Some people trying something new wouldn't have good equipment, that's who might most need advice. And good aftercare.
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Aftercare though is my specialty. It's where I like to put focus into things more than anything else. With bondage or anything else.
[ A brief time he had lost that desire and given into another but it's only made him more determined to show those he's with how much he can be there for them. ]
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( very weird and unsexy. at least phrasing it that way. though with him she wasn't currently considering that )
But you could learn to tie up your partners.